Updated: Jan 2

There are moments every day where we feel stuck, or unmotivated, or overwhelmed. These are the moments where we need a reminder why we’re doing the thing that is leading to these negative emotions.

There are also moments every day where we feel alive, or motivated, or energetic. These are the moments where we need a reminder why we’re doing the thing that is leading to these positive emotions.


We lose our way when we lose our why. If you find yourself in a moment of frustration with a task or activity today, ask yourself why you are doing it. Maybe your why is because it’s leading toward your ideal future of being physically fit, or toward having a great relationship with your kids when they become adults, or toward completing a project that will lead to a sense of accomplishment.


We lose our way when we lose our why. If you find yourself in a moment of bliss today, ask yourself why you are feeling that way. Maybe your why is because you had a good breakfast, or you got a good night’s sleep, or you are doing something you love. Discovering the why is discovering the clues and the inputs that you can use to create more bliss in your life!


We lose our way when we lose our why. Get curious about yourself and your life today. That small, three-letter word can make a big impact!


Have a great day!


Coach Chris

Updated: Jan 2

You hear the reminder every time you fly. “Should there be a sudden change in cabin pressure, oxygen masks will drop from the compartment above you. Be sure to put your own oxygen mask on before assisting others.


There are two reasons this message is delivered. The first is because we simply can’t help ourselves. We see someone struggling and our good-intentioned instincts take over. It hurts us more to see someone else suffer than to suffer ourselves.


The second reason is that we literally can’t help someone else breathe if we can’t breathe ourselves. In this potentially extreme situation on an airplane, if we were to pass out, this would make a bad situation even worse because we would add another layer to the problem.


How do we put the “oxygen masks” on ourselves first in real life? We need to realize that taking care of ourselves is not selfish. In fact, making sure we’re at our best is a selfless act. We are better able to help those around us who are struggling and suffering if we have high levels of energy and patience. We can increase our levels by doing the little things for ourselves that we know are good for us: exercising, reading, decompressing, being alone for a few minutes…



When we sacrifice our needs for the sake of helping others, we are actually doing them a disservice, because we aren’t helping them to the best of our ability. Let’s remember that today when we feel selfish about doing something good for ourselves.


Have a great day!


Coach Chris

Updated: Jan 2

There will come a moment today when you feel overwhelmed, frustrated, or impatient. Against your better judgement, you may allow this moment to send you into a negative tailspin. There is a better way.


Breathe. Thank. Act.


Is your Twitter feed about to send you into a fit of rage?


Breathe. Thank. Act.


Have your kids interrupted you during your meeting again?


Breathe. Thank. Act.


Is a deadline approaching way faster than you expected?


Breathe. Thank. Act.


In the span of about 30 seconds, you can gain control of your reaction to the moment by taking three simple steps. Breathe. Thank. Act.


Breathe

If you can catch yourself before the negative emotion overtakes you, the first step in reversing course is simply remembering to breathe. Take one slow, deep breath and feel the calm enter your system.



Thank

After taking that slow, deep breathe, think of one thing for which you are grateful. Your partner. Your kids. Your health. Your ability to realize you're about to lose it in this moment! It doesn't have to be something big, but finding one thing that you appreciate can help shift your mood and mindset quickly.


Act

You have taken the breathe and identified something for which you are grateful. The third and final step is to ask yourself, "What is the one thing I can do right now to move me in the direction I need to go?" As Anna sings in Frozen 2, "Just do the next right thing." Sometimes that's all we can do, and that's always enough.


Breathe. Thank. Act.


You've got this.


Have a great day!


Coach Chris

Coach Chris

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I'm a big believer in focusing on the process instead of the product. I call this Perpetual Progress, which is a theme in my personal life and my coaching. 

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