Ask for What You Want
I was scheduled to host a workshop for local dads this week. But we ended up postponing the event due to a low number of sign-ups.
I put a lot of thought, time, and energy into creating the structure of the workshop. So I was disappointed when it was cancelled.
I shared the event information with a lot of my local friends, but most of them didn't sign up. One of the reasons they didn't sign up is because I didn't come out and ask them to sign up. I made a blanket statement about how it would be great if they could make it and/or share the word. But if I would have individually told each of them that I was looking forward to the event, and if I would have individually asked each of them to attend, many of them would have been able to make it happen.
But I didn't ask for what I wanted. Because it feels weird to ask people to come out and support you. It feels a bit desperate. But why?
If my friend told me they were doing something in which they were putting themselves on a stage and leading a group, and they asked me to attend as a form of support, I would be there in a heartbeat if I was available!
The people in our lives aren't mind-readers. We need to tell them what we want. We need to ask them for their help. When we do this, we give them the opportunity to give us the gift of their support and friendship.
When this workshop is rescheduled, I will tell my friends that it would mean a lot to me if they would come to the event. This will make me a bit uncomfortable, but I'll have to get over that. Because it will give them the opportunity to give me a gift.
Make it a great day!