My kids go back to school full-time today. This is great. This is fantastic. This is amazing. And...this is bittersweet.
For the last year, they've been with me just about every day as they work on school and I work from home. While there have been frustrating moments (usually brought on when I forgot to split myself into three different people), I have truly enjoyed being with them.
Today is another good reminder of the power of the statement, "You're gonna miss this."
During those moments of frustration, when I felt like I was doing everything poorly, I knew I was going to miss the time we were spending together. During those moments of overwhelm, where I literally couldn't be in three places at once, I knew I was going to miss being counted on to help. During these moments, I tried to remind myself, "You're gonna miss this."
I haven't even taken them to school yet, and I already miss the idea of having them around.
If you find yourself in one of those moments today, remember, this too shall pass. There will come a day when you look back and miss what was frustrating or overwhelming you today.
And if you're a parent, and your kid is going back to school today, this one's for you.
Make it a great day!
I will turn 45 this weekend. Yes, that does sound old when I see it written out, thank you very much...
As I reflect on making it another year around the sun, I think about some of the best lessons I've learned during my never-ending journey of personal development.
This isn't the be-all, end-all list of life lessons, but it's a pretty damned good base from which to stand. So here you go...45 life lessons. One for each of my beautiful years on this earth:
Treat others how you want to be treated. Imagine a world where everyone did that.
Clarity comes with action. The next steps present themselves as you move forward.
Do the thing and you shall have the power. Unfinished business hangs over you like a dark cloud.
You will never be totally “ready”. Don’t let that prevent you from starting.
Always strive to be your most authentic self. It’s from there that everything good comes into your life.
Don’t worry about what other people think. They’re too busy worrying about what other people think about them anyway.
It is through giving that we receive. Just make sure not to give with the expectation of receiving.
Everything you do either trends you upward or downward. Choose wisely.
If you have your health, you’ve got everything you really need.
“I’m glad I did” is way better than “I wish I would have.”
When you’re at the end, the only thing that’s going to matter are the people around you. Try to live that way before getting to the end.
Garbage in. Garbage out. Keep the garbage out of your mind and body.
Accept the gift, lest you rob the other person of expressing their gratitude.
Start now instead of wallowing in not having started sooner.
Let compound interest work its magic in your bank accounts and your life accounts.
You (and everyone else) are always deserving of unconditional love from yourself and from others.
There’s no such thing as a guilty pleasure. If you like something, own it.
Shine brightly. The world needs as much light as possible, and others need you to light the way for them.
You’ve survived 100% of your worst moments and your worst days.
Create a morning routine that allows you to start each day on your terms.
You’re not being selfish by taking care of yourself. You’re actually being selfless because you're better able to help others when you’re at your best.
Say yes. But make sure it’s a “Hell YES!”
Practice gratitude every day. The more you practice, the more grateful you become.
Don’t keep score with your partner. You’re on the same team.
Your kids will grow up to be like you. So be the person you want them to be.
There is no such thing as an overnight success. Success is an organic result of the daily commitment to making progress.
You never reach a point where you have it all figured out. Life isn’t a puzzle to complete or a game to be won.
Perpetual Progress. Just take one step forward every day. Before you know it, you’ll have covered a lot of ground.
You have 100% of your life left.
Don’t “should” on yourself.
Nobody gets out of here alive. Use that fact to overcome your fears.
Give yourself permission to be you. You are enough.
Be confident with not knowing. You’re not supposed to know everything, and nobody expects you to.
Grow through it instead of just trying to get through it.
It’s okay not to be okay sometimes.
Success isn’t a straight line. It’s an weird-looking scribble that goes up, down, backward, sideways, around in circles, and all over the place.
You’re gonna miss this.
Listen before being listened to. Understand before being understood.
The present is perfect. It’s perfect because it’s all we truly have.
If you’re feeling stuck mentally, move physically. It’s amazing what a simple walk can do to clear your head.
Surround yourself with people who make you feel good about yourself. Remove the toxic people from your life.
Tell people how you feel. You may think you’re saving them from hurt feelings, but you’re actually showing you can’t be trusted to be honest when you hold it in.
It is what it is. Don’t label it as good or bad. It just is. Accept it and deal with it.
How you do anything is how you do everything. If you mow the lawn half-ass, you probably do parts of your job half-ass.
You are capable of way more than you can possibly imagine right now. Believe in yourself like others believe in you.
Make it a great day!
"I'm trying to be the best mess. It's an understanding that regardless of how I show up, I'm enough because I said so." -- Chidera Eggerue
Authenticity. It's a state of being for me that has become my NorthStar.
I've been feeling a bit off-center lately. Lots of responsibilities. Lots of running around. Lots of people-pleasing.
When I'm in one of these slumps, I tend to look for and chase what needs to be done in order for me to get centered. But I've realized recently that getting centered simply means returning to being me.
I had a great conversation with my coach the other day about giving myself permission to be me. When I do this, I take pressure off myself to be everything to everyone. I can only be me. And when I am me, as my most authentic self, I serve others powerfully.
I created some new affirmations around this as a reminder to myself:
I give myself permission to be me. I give myself permission not to know everything. I give myself permission to show up everywhere as my most authentic self. I give myself permission to inhabit this authentic space that is always available to me.
My most authentic self is confident in who I am, what I know, and what I don't know.
My most authentic self believes that I am enough and that I am deserving of unconditional love from myself and others.
My most authentic self shares my WHO with the world, shining brightly and paving the way for others to do the same.
I give myself permission to forget and stray from authenticity from time to time. I give myself permission to just breathe and be in order to get back to my most authentic self.
I am a beautiful mess. So are you. So are all of us.
Make it a great day!