Chris Carlock

Jun 2, 20231 min

The Ability to Be Disliked

"You must develop the ability to be disliked in order to free yourself from the prison of other peoples' opinions." -- Mark Manson

I truly don't care what other people think of me when it comes to my actions and my decisions. I fully understand and accept that some people disagree with the way I do things. But the way I do things works for me, and that's all that matters.

But when it comes to people liking me, well, that's something that I've always cared about. I'm realizing as I get older that I've cared about it too much.

Not everybody has to like me. And that's okay. Nobody on earth has a 100% likeability rate. But I've always strived for a 100% likeability rate, and it brings unnecessary stress into my life.

A more achievable goal would be to strive for a 100% respectability rate. Because it's possible to be respected without being liked.

As a teacher, coach, and parent, I make decisions that can lead people to feel as if they dislike me (though I would argue they dislike the decision more than they dislike me). And I have to be okay with this. Because it's impossible to be in a position of leadership and make 100% of the people 100% satisfied.

I'm seeking out leadership situations and opportunities because they force me to develop the ability to be disliked. And once I stop caring whether everybody likes me or not, I can truly be free to focus solely on being respected instead of liked.

Make it a great day!

Coach Chris

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